Honesty?
The quality or condition of being honest; integrity
Truthfulness; sincerity:
If you look inside yourself and finally come to terms with the fact that you are upset at a friend because they have been taking advantage of you and treating you like dirt, should you tell them so? Ok, so you tell them. That being the case, if the truth hurts them, are you better off than you were before? Or, are you worse off because now your "friend" is upset at you? Should you feel bad because you made them sad or relieved that you finally spoke your mind and got the anger and frustration off your chest? I mean, any relationship is based on honesty, right? And it's never good to let someone take advantage of you, right? But it's also never right to hurt people.
I used to feel really bad for her when all the guys dumped her. Now I'm begining to understand and agree with the guys. It's not like I havn't always been there for her. I've never NOT been there... for 11 years! But now I get shoved in the closet and pulled out only when she needs me. Somehow that doesn't seem like a very good friend to me...
Someone please tell me what I'm supposed to do!
posted by that girl @ 4:01 PM
1 Comments:
I disagree. People sometimes need to be hurt by means of rebuke. Only a fool ignores rebuke and continues in ignorance.
I'm not advocating going around telling everyone off for no reason, but if someone has truly done something hurtful to you, you should discuss it with them. Honesty, as you said, it the cornerstone of a lasting relationship.
That being said, I'm somewhat concerned about your "Someone tell me what to do" comment. Other cannot make up your mind for you. If you allow that, you will never be truly happy about the decisions made.
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